For a solid 20 years or so there has been a self hatred of our pubic hair. I have touched on this subject once before but as mine starts to change dramatically at the age of 51 I felt the need share about the hair down there.
When my pubic hair started to grow it was an exciting time. I had explored my body from the age of 8 with no shame to myself about it. I was aware when each change happened, as I am now.
I don't want to be some one who talks about a subject that I have no expereience about so here's what I have learned so that I may possibly save some young girl some pain and also make them release pubic hair shame.
At 15 I shaved off all my pubic hair and found the four days after it very uncomfortable to sit down at school. Prickly , itchy and SOOOO awful I never did it again. So I fell back in love with my soft and lovely pubic hair and remained perplexed, to this day as to why we hate it.
Are we told it's ugly , are we pressured or is it like so many other things a "beauty" trend? The laser issue horrifies me . And my dear friends I will share more as to why it might be wiser to save and love your vagina from this brutality .
Menopause changes everything about your vagina not just the transition to stop bleeding . It swells differently and randomly it seems to desire less attention and is not begging to be filled by you or anyone or anything else for that matter. Now that's a big game changer in itself . I was always wanting to have sex - my ex husband wasn't a fantastic lover , he was kind and kinda routine in the long run and kind of a little quick . Now that got my goat however if we were together now I couldn't care less.
I never would have thought mine would wane , it actually is a blessing in so many ways. Occasionaly I might get a vibrator out , but even that shocked me with the way the clitorus cant handle the vibrations or I often felt like I had hurt myself rather than pleasured myself. Ok so lets get rid of the vibrator for a bit.... I was still surprised at the changes and the big one - my hair was thinning . It still covers al the places it used to but not in such furry loveliness.
Now if you are a fulltime obsessed waxer you might think "yay" but I would like to add your skin can change to.More sensitve , prone to lumps or rashes . I dare not think what would happen if I was waxing.
I also have pondered for some time why do we wish to get rid of it? I loved the feeling of pubic hair rubbing against each other . I slept with a man who had shaved once. The next day rashes everywhere and I didn't like it one bit. Also it looks kinda weird kinda creepy like he was a little boy -eeeewwww.
I know that there can be control in relationshoips at times and I do worry that women are being told to do it. What man wants to be with a woman whose body represents a pre pubescent child ?! I would be asking myself do I want to be with a guy who tells me what to do to my body? The biggest power we have in the self love cup is to be in control of our bodies , to honour it to love it. There are so many "yonni" workshops for streaming it and honouring and yet the mass consciousness still wants to put sharp razors near it or put fucking hot wax on it?!!
One of my favourite lines in the Russell Brand movie "Get him to the Greek" is when they are in a club and Jonah Hill loses it on drugs. Russell tells him to go and stroke the furry wall. When Sean Combs joins him he says "this is what pussy used to feel like in the '70's" -PRICELESS !!! I was on the ground crying with laughter.
How much of sensual pleasure are we denying each other when we take it all off? All I am saying is give pubes a chance .
Let's look at this another way . We see many returns to the more some may say conservative way of things. Burlesque for example made a huge come back. The art of keeping clothes nearly all on and using the body as art. Now don't get me wrong I can't stand the wearing of socks in bed while having sex , no no thats just ugly and pointless. I find a man half clothed or even in a beautiful suit far more alluring as I have to come up with what he looks like underneath . The same goes for women . The drapping of fabric can be really beautiful as opposed to boobs popping out everywhere.
One thing I will also add is that we might have to end up like Barbie , loooking like we've been dipped in wax as the pubic hair seems to thin , it hasn't it has just decided to march down your legs front and back ! Yikes , now thats gonna cost something. I bought longer vintage style bathers and that worked for a while. I will say I do shave that hair from time to time , but its not my vagina!
Hey of course you are you and you can do what you want , I just wanted to share that nothing stays the same , especially down there . It is ok to have pubic hair its ok to love yourself enough to tell some one that you aren't waxing or shaving for them and its ok to be natural and beautiful .because you are I Am Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent in everyway.
