tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-61893163741346981482024-03-14T02:30:06.368-07:00IAGBAMVioletNight is ALL women. She is my ultra ego super hero bringing IAGBAM - I Am Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent SELF LOVE to all through social media and music .VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-23359757883471494042019-10-07T19:18:00.002-07:002019-10-15T04:36:15.393-07:00Give pubes a chance and love your furry wallsFor a solid 20 years or so there has been a self hatred of our pubic hair. I have touched on this subject once before but as mine starts to change dramatically at the age of 51 I felt the need share about the hair down there.<br />
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When my pubic hair started to grow it was an exciting time. I had explored my body from the age of 8 with no shame to myself about it. I was aware when each change happened, as I am now.<br />
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I don't want to be some one who talks about a subject that I have no expereience about so here's what I have learned so that I may possibly save some young girl some pain and also make them release pubic hair shame.<br />
At 15 I shaved off all my pubic hair and found the four days after it very uncomfortable to sit down at school. Prickly , itchy and SOOOO awful I never did it again. So I fell back in love with my soft and lovely pubic hair and remained perplexed, to this day as to why we hate it.<br />
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Are we told it's ugly , are we pressured or is it like so many other things a "beauty" trend? The laser issue horrifies me . And my dear friends I will share more as to why it might be wiser to save and love your vagina from this brutality .<br />
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Menopause changes everything about your vagina not just the transition to stop bleeding . It swells differently and randomly it seems to desire less attention and is not begging to be filled by you or anyone or anything else for that matter. Now that's a big game changer in itself . I was always wanting to have sex - my ex husband wasn't a fantastic lover , he was kind and kinda routine in the long run and kind of a little quick . Now that got my goat however if we were together now I couldn't care less.<br />
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I never would have thought mine would wane , it actually is a blessing in so many ways. Occasionaly I might get a vibrator out , but even that shocked me with the way the clitorus cant handle the vibrations or I often felt like I had hurt myself rather than pleasured myself. Ok so lets get rid of the vibrator for a bit.... I was still surprised at the changes and the big one - my hair was thinning . It still covers al the places it used to but not in such furry loveliness.<br />
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Now if you are a fulltime obsessed waxer you might think "yay" but I would like to add your skin can change to.More sensitve , prone to lumps or rashes . I dare not think what would happen if I was waxing.<br />
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I also have pondered for some time why do we wish to get rid of it? I loved the feeling of pubic hair rubbing against each other . I slept with a man who had shaved once. The next day rashes everywhere and I didn't like it one bit. Also it looks kinda weird kinda creepy like he was a little boy -eeeewwww.<br />
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I know that there can be control in relationshoips at times and I do worry that women are being told to do it. What man wants to be with a woman whose body represents a pre pubescent child ?! I would be asking myself do I want to be with a guy who tells me what to do to my body? The biggest power we have in the self love cup is to be in control of our bodies , to honour it to love it. There are so many "yonni" workshops for streaming it and honouring and yet the mass consciousness still wants to put sharp razors near it or put fucking hot wax on it?!!<br />
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One of my favourite lines in the Russell Brand movie "Get him to the Greek" is when they are in a club and Jonah Hill loses it on drugs. Russell tells him to go and stroke the furry wall. When Sean Combs joins him he says "this is what pussy used to feel like in the '70's" -PRICELESS !!! I was on the ground crying with laughter.<br />
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How much of sensual pleasure are we denying each other when we take it all off? All I am saying is give pubes a chance .<br />
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Let's look at this another way . We see many returns to the more some may say conservative way of things. Burlesque for example made a huge come back. The art of keeping clothes nearly all on and using the body as art. Now don't get me wrong I can't stand the wearing of socks in bed while having sex , no no thats just ugly and pointless. I find a man half clothed or even in a beautiful suit far more alluring as I have to come up with what he looks like underneath . The same goes for women . The drapping of fabric can be really beautiful as opposed to boobs popping out everywhere.<br />
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One thing I will also add is that we might have to end up like Barbie , loooking like we've been dipped in wax as the pubic hair seems to thin , it hasn't it has just decided to march down your legs front and back ! Yikes , now thats gonna cost something. I bought longer vintage style bathers and that worked for a while. I will say I do shave that hair from time to time , but its not my vagina!<br />
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Hey of course you are you and you can do what you want , I just wanted to share that nothing stays the same , especially down there . It is ok to have pubic hair its ok to love yourself enough to tell some one that you aren't waxing or shaving for them and its ok to be natural and beautiful .because you are I Am Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent in everyway.<br />
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-7198892395705138812018-05-13T18:32:00.002-07:002020-03-21T19:37:18.989-07:00A sense of purpose <br />
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Mmmmm, it's been a long time... I think because there are so many blogs in the world and who really reads them anyway?<br />
When I watch Sex In The City I look at how it started a generation of people, expressing themselves on the internet blog blog bloggiddy blog, rather than writing it down in a journal...I gave up dairies /journalling years ago after reading my 14 year old self diaries and finding it was a waste of paper the tree died for, gosh the blah blah blah of self loathing , and lack of awareness at a time when we are full of hormones. Probably the worst time EVER to journal.<br />
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So why be bloggered now? ...is it a means of self expression , a feeding of the ego or boredom?Does it really help the soul to heal by sharing our stories or does it feed a victim mentality ?<br />
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For me , I began the whole IAGBAM as a way to help to lift up people's vibration, help them achieve self love , be of some sort of inspiration. Well that is still true , as I get organised to release a remix of the single to put the message out there, it is interesting as since i recorded that in 2015 there has been a real momentum and talk of people loving themself - and not in a narcissist type of way -eeeewwwww.<br />
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My self love this year has been to actually stop for a while, not blog , not attend things , not even click on the sign petition very often either. Getting in touch with who I am not who I am programmed to be. I have been very passionate about a lot of issues in my life , at times when people thought I was talking shit and being slightly outrageous. hhhmmm now even cool ol' Leonardo de Caprio is talking about indigenous rights, saving the planet and having compassion for nature. Good coz now I don't have to .I can get back on the IAGBAM horse and ride it like a fucking olympic champion. As a sole parent and self proclaimed owner of a business , looking for a new place to live and keeping up with the groceries, blogging just didn't fit in to what was an exhausting start to this year.<br />
Spending the entire school break with a 10 yr old is great but when there is no one to share that with , blimey it gets tiring . Oh I forgot to add menopause to the list of factors- so where's my Mum now to give me the heads up , oh thats right she left the planet 9 years ago or so . I can't even tell you the library of wisdom that I cannot replace at the local municipality for that one. Do no let that loveable resource go untapped- it will empower her also , and hell every mother needs empowering let me tell you .<br />
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Cosmic energies- don't even start me . It has been wild and if you are a little susceptible to them then WOW maybe that should be top of my list. You can check all that stuff out for yourself theres plenty of it around and in my blog "Tools for getting by" you can grab links too.<br />
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So I feel like my purpose is to help everyone ride like the champion I am -hopefully even better- lately I fell of the said IAGBAM horse a few times so far this year. I didn't sustain injuries but it was a dizzy discombobulating time. Buying a new outfit here and there can give the pretence that you have it together , so I do recommend that and regular visits to the hairdresser . no one wants to look like Beetlejuice in public....that is strictly for housework and night times watching tv. <br />
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Going out to events , if that is your thing I do recommend also . I spent a lot of my life dancing , so when I don't do it I realise how much that is a MUST in my life. The loungeroom is fine but it is good to get out in public if you have the outfit and hair back on track . AND I am not saying this in a pretentious way - i'll just say Beetlejuice !!<br />
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I think I am quite a good writer and a bit funny too, on a good day so my sense of purpose I feel is to share the amazing wisdom that I have gleaned - yes thats a real word , and spread it round like a wonderful chocolate fondue for us to all indulge in- if you don't like chocolate (WTF is wrong with you ) then a fine jug of favourite alcohol may suffice.<br />
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Do what makes you feel good , not what any instagram meme , Facebook self help guru or expensive mentor likes to tell you . I love llamas- so I look at pictures of llamas, then dance then eat chocolate. Helps me find my footing in the stirrups . I go to the beach , look at fine looking young men that are to exhausting to think about dating and feel like I have consumed a wonderful matured cheese. Whatever it takes , find it and do it , not because nike tell you too but for your self care and to fill up your cup and then say out loud IAGBAM !<br />
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Dear ones, I like to keep my blogs short and to the point , so that you might actually finish reading it through your tears , hopefully of laughter but they might be of sorrow (TRIGGERED- the word of 2018) so I shall sign off and say this .....<br />
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YOU ARE AMAZING , YOU ARE LOVED AND MOST OF ALL YOU ARE<br />
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<b><i><span style="font-size: x-large;">IAGBAM - I Am Goddess Beautiful And </span></i></b><span style="font-size: x-large;"><b><i>Magnificent </i></b></span><br />
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-80606396777977562212017-05-31T04:51:00.002-07:002017-11-03T04:33:06.475-07:00Self love is not a trend , get your IAGBAM ON NOWOk Ok , I am seeing over the past 2 years so much talk about self love. AWESOME . However , when I sit and talk with people and when I feel people in my space- and I don't mean touch them , I can feel how people feel ( some call it empath some call it energetically aware, it's not always a blessings btw) people are not feeling actual <i><b>SELF LOVE -</b> many the opposite, so when you feel that that can really throw a dampener on your day /dinner party /get together.</i><br />
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How do we get it ? I know I gave out my mantra <b><i><span style="font-size: large;">IAGBAM</span></i></b> and over the past 2 years many have got it. My intention was that I wanted EVERYONE to feel it. And it is very hard at times to maintain it.<br />
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Firstly it does not come because you feel some one else loves you , and so you feel all squishy love - that would be "other love" or "another love" not self love. Also when some one else loves you we feel obliged to do something for that love , when you love yourself you just have love .<br />
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Buying ourselves something and feeling good, whether it is food or a thing, it's a nice feeling and it is comes more under the <b><i>"self care" </i></b>of <b><i>"self worth"</i></b> category . Now this is also a great experience but once again it is not <span style="font-size: large;"><b><i>self love.</i></b> And it is still looking for something outside of YOU .</span><br />
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I have found that this year has been difficult to navigate and even the great Violetnight super woman has had moments of spilling the self love cup and needing to find a way to refill it. I could go on and on with all my personal little trials and tribulations, then I might as well have my own reality tv show "Keeping up with catastrophies " lol . That's time consuming and every week you have to watch it , and when we watch others falling over it actually just keeps that experience in our soul looping. AND I want us all to get it NOW not in a season of tv time later lol.<br />
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I had stated in my blog BAM <a href="http://iagbam.blogspot.com.au/2015/05/bam-beautiful-and-magnificent-this-cam.html">http://iagbam.blogspot.com.au/2015/05/bam-beautiful-and-magnificent-this-cam.html</a>- about ancient wisdom about the ceremony I experienced. I woud love for everyone to do it. However right now I don't know anyone who does it except me and I live in a little flat , so there ain't going to be no labrynth happening in my space this week . I really want this to kick in for everyone <b><i>ASAP </i></b>.<br />
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So here is the most simple and easy way to do it . Turn off your tv, put your phone on silent and preferably play some very relaxing music <a href="https://youtu.be/6u0xIRID060">https://youtu.be/6u0xIRID060</a> there you go you don't even have to look for it...sorry there is a skip add at the start. ANYWAYS, put the music on , make sure no one else in the house can disturb you .<br />
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Breathe deeply in through your nose and slowly release through your mouth<br />
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Repeat this at least 3 times , until you are relaxing or at least just focusing on the breath.<br />
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Put your hands on your heart .<br />
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Now say "I LOVE YOU" , to you !<br />
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Repeat this as many times as you can .<br />
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Then say " I AM A Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent" for a few minutes.<br />
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Really feel it as you say it and I hope for you that you feel a shift in how you feel.<br />
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You may either feel joyous or be crying after a few times. What ever arises love that and keep the self love cup filling up . .<br />
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It is a super simple exercise , and super important as we live in this now with constant bombardment of news, "social" media and distractions. The Dali Lama will tell you life can be simple, we have made it difficult and many sayings we have grown up with were devised to bring us down "life wasn't meant to be easy " blah blah ...yes it was and it is and it can be , when we get back to loving ourselves<br />
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You can also amplify this by doing it in nature.<br />
You can do it in your car , the shower where ever and when ever you need to .<br />
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You are truely beautiful and magnificent , be kind to yourself , love yourself , after all you spend the most time with you :D You are loved by the devine creator , the angels and ascended masters- and you are a part of them - so love yourself .<br />
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-85668130372987561532017-03-31T04:07:00.004-07:002017-03-31T04:16:37.839-07:00A hinterland best kept secret, Lismore<br />
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My blogs are always linked to self love, which shopping has alot to do with . However right now , this blog is about giving some love to a town that is defiantly going to need some back.<br />
Hidden amongst the mountains an hour away from one of the most popular Aussie destinations over the past decade (Byron Bay) is a sweet little town that has such a diversity of things to offer from a regional country town . Lismore<br />
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When I was growing up , it was just a place on the map I had never been to. In more recent times it is a town I love to visit and experience the diversity . And as of today it is going to need visitors , support and love.<br />
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In the northern rivers region tucked between beautiful valleys along side the Richmond River, Lismore has been an integral part of the district for over 150 years.. The first time I passed through it I saw it as a very typical country town with you beaut utes , a big pub on the corner and the standard shops , I was with a dear friend and didn't give it much attention.<br />
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However having spent many days there, on the way to my friend's house , I have found a delightful cacophony of unique shops, wonderful art and amazing food. For me the big star is the Star Arcade. Once upon at time it was a beautiful theatre, and is often the case developers tugged and pulled it into a different shape. Usually this means they destroyed it. Not so in Lismore.<br />
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Strolling down there is a variety of great shops. The funky barber with the beautifully fitted out 50's memorabilia . The stunning Erika with beautiful fashion , natural fibres and the eye catching chandelier when you walk in. Opposite is Mis Mildred's . A selection of beautiful handmade clothes from vintage style fabrics , on Sundays there is a knitting group sharing time together food and I was stoked to see a young male in there learning the skills that to my mothers' dismay I never acquired (she was a highly skilled knitter btw). As you keep wandering more fabulous women running their own businesses.<br />
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When shopping everyone needs a cake break. You will find a wonderful shop fitted out to perfection . When I stopped in they were so friendly, and I love the fact the the husband of Miss Mildred's was telling me to go and see her fabulous shop . Opposite a young teacher sells her art and fabulous Japanese style fashion for the funky and fabulous. You can also get a massage in the arcade too.<br />
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A wonderful full vegetarian cafe selling charcoal noodles, raw cheesecake and all sorts of wonderful food, Is another highlight . If that is not enough for you towards the end of the arcade you can find another fabulous seamstress making fab outfits from vintage fabrics, I spotted a few classic Australiana tea towels turned into beautiful skirts. She made clothes up to a size 20 as well .<br />
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To cap it off was a funky little shop selling all the best in leopard print skirts, lace and other things for those of us with an lean towards the alternative or for those looking for great stuff for a fun party.<br />
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Now this is just one little arcade in Lismore. If you have a stroll around you will find beautiful homewares, high class fashion and more funky cafe's and food that would be more likely to be seen on the streets of Melbourne or Sydney.<br />
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Now as semi local I am not going to give you all the addresses for the fab op shops , I have to have some secrets but I would like to say that if you are planning a trip to the Northern Rivers and think that Byron is the main attraction , take a drive and hour inland, the scenery is beautiful and see Lismore. There are art galleries and beautiful buildings to admire, fro the late 1800's - you don't get that in Byron .<br />
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On my travels between Victoria and New South wales every stop we made the country towns did not fail to impress me time and time again with their unique and interesting history , beautiful buildings and often very funky shops. Take a moment more out of your busy holiday time and actual sit in a small town for a minute, it might teach you something, it might delight you and I bet you it will surprise you.<br />
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On the 30th of March they have had a huge flood, so give them a week to mop up and then go for a drive and support a great community of diversity and talent.<br />
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-12557491256646011722017-01-02T16:52:00.001-08:002017-11-26T04:27:20.616-08:00Oh My Hat - OMHHappy 2017 my readers ...I know what you are thinking- girl it's March already !!! Well life in my new area is full of great times at the beach and stuff to do. Also I wanted to spend my son's summer vacation with him so I took a little time off super woman duty and did full time parent adulating .<br />
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For those of you who don't know much about me , my blogs are a dedication to my wonderful mother who now watches over me .<br />
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So as I went to write this blog I remembered a saying from her generation "Oh My Hat " in the old days way the equivalent of OMG or even WTF or Shut Up or Shut The Door an exclamation really . I like the old ways that were classy and sorta chic . My hats are influenced by the era's of the 40's and 50's when things were made very well and to last. There was a beauty about them and style, just like my mum .<br />
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How the IAGBAM hats came about. I had been invited to a "high tea" - google it if you don't know what that is , for a 70th birthday , and thought to myself , "all the people around here dress up every party, what can I do for this one?" I really love and admire this woman so I wanted to make something that honoured her, something unique .<br />
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So after a overwhelming response to that hat I decided to make a few more for the upcoming film clip I was making <a href="https://youtu.be/P3_fvzTUH58">https://youtu.be/P3_fvzTUH58</a><br />
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I am a passionate lover of the planet and with that I made some hats from upcycled bits and bobs(another of my mum's sayings ) from garage(yard) sales and second hand shops . Now I used to make a lot of sculptures with skulls <a href="https://www.facebook.com/OffTheBoneProductions/">https://www.facebook.com/OffTheBoneProductions/</a> and after I stopped collecting skulls I took the bones onto the hats.<br />
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I decided that it would be best to ease into my new community , not freak them out with my goth/punkness and real skulls and it was time to move into a new style- I wanted a new theme . So this year I thought would be good to keep on the self love, make every hat IAGBAM , as I want each person who puts the hats on to be able to say I'm A Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent, ta da ! the hat label IAGBAM is born. I had not long unpacked my cases when I got invited to another high tea to display my hats . So I frantically got to work and started hunting down new pieces as most of my materials are still in storage interstate! Head down bum up I began creating brand new pieces to display at Bangalow Heritage House Cafe and Museum<br />
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Each hat in this series has a love heart , at least one if not more and the theme of the chandelier crystals are always present. The crystals are to bring in light so a little love and light - which people say but often do not embrace it. The crystals dangling on the side of the hats are a tribute to Australian history and the "aussie corkscrew" hat which they used to keep the flies away. Well Violetnight is all about the beauty so it was time to bring beauty into the version of Australian culture , after all if you explore the Indigenous Dreamtime it is a constant , always changing. Also crystal hold a high vibration so let's get these hats pinging with good vibes I say .<br />
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So introducing the series of love and light IAGBAM hats to make every wearer a goddess that they truely are . I have also been making some hats for men - for they need to have some love and light too.<br />
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-22150169746450025142016-12-05T02:30:00.003-08:002020-12-09T00:14:56.808-08:00Big bodies deserve beautiful clothes<b><i><span style="font-size: large;">Big bodies deserve beautiful clothes.</span></i></b><br />
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For the past 4 years my body size has been increasing. As I grow older , and as a single parent my biggest gift to myself is delicious food. Being that I am a mother as well I need to be nurtured, so let's make sure it's tasty I say.</div>
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Having said that my love of handmade chocolates and wonderful cakes has seen my body grow in ways that once upon a time I would have been horrified by. These days the biggest disadvantage is sweating in a sub tropical climate and not having decent clothing options.</div>
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Now I know for a <b>FACT </b>that the majority of women on the planet are a size 14 and above. Magazines and advertising would like you to think otherwise and we as women (and many men too now) agonise about not being of the right size and shape. Now I might be over weight , but seriously I have blogs to write , hats to make and a house to keep and right now I have lost my mojo on the exercising regime I used to have. I have onset early menopause- that's a whole other blog , but I will tell you now, energy levels and food cravings rage like a constantly hormonal teenager or pregnant woman. </div>
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Now I might be subtropical but I do not live alone in the jungle or in an ancient tribe-therefore I need clothes like everyone else does. Hhhmm here lies the problem. I might have aged but my desire for nice/fashianble/gothic/interesting clothing has not waned. Up until recently I would have to dress like some one 30 years older than me , and I do not feel like embracing nanacore just yet. So where to go , what to do if you do not wish to dress in unintersting clothes?<br />
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Now is you shop around you can find great clothes in independent shops in Lismore NSW Australia I came across 3 different shops that stocked up to a size 22. So it is always good to look around. Depending on your mood you might like to look in a store and when they start to treat you like a second class citizen , if you area cashed up babe , let them know you can take your money elsewhere and it is there loss. But for a purely positive experience....</div>
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Here's my tip. You can either get clothes custom made- difficult and often extremely expensive, or depending on taste you can shop at<a href=" https://takingshape.com/AU/new-in/."> https://takingshape.com/AU/new-in/.</a> or <a href="http://www.atomiccherry.com.au/shop-by-label/hell-bunny">http://www.atomiccherry.com.au/shop-by-label/hell-bunny</a> .</div>
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Let's get into some details...Taking Shape (TS) boutiques exist around the east coast of Australia. The range is quite diverse and these days more and more variety is available. I have a dislike for synthetic fabrics , they just make me sweat , as often I sound like my mother- but I do not cringe at this I realise the wisdom .<br />
TS has some wonderful cotton and linen in range now . Today I decided I could not wear the same two dresses or the 1 pair of shorts I bought from them 2 years ago that are starting to wear out. So I was delighted to have fun and helpful women to show me the range of tops, shorts and dresses. They even had my new fav bather top that looks like a wetsuit with the zip up the middle. Shoes and jewellery are there and they will look after you. The clothes are varied in price but the quality and style is great. If you get the right time you can pick things up for unto 60% off and like most retail they have their 40% or more sales.<br />
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The second link is for Atomic Cherry. If you like vintage 50's style this is an amazing online store with size charts so you can measure and work out the size you need. I did find a shop in Melbourne Swanson st that stocked Hell Bunny dresses that go up to 4XXXL and they are made of cotton. This was great to try things on and then be able to purchase online later on . In store they are more expensive and my online experience was I could get dresses up to 1/3 of the price . They also have skirts and tops, cardigan , bras and bikini's .<br />
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Now if I was able to sew I would get into designing clothes for us plus size ladies. We deserve after all to dress with our full IAGBAM going on . There are some answers for us here in Australia with class and style .<br />
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In America you can get super funky clothes from Tess Holiday <a href="http://shop.nordstrom.com/c/womens-clothing/mblm-by-tess-holliday~13591/encore-department">http://shop.nordstrom.com/c/womens-clothing/mblm-by-tess-holliday~13591/encore-department</a> She is taking it to a level I really like.</div>
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<b>Parenting tip 101</b>- your child is their own unique being , even tho we try to make them like us whether we do it consciously or not.<br />
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My son has no real interest staring out the plane window. There are somethings that the digital age have now made not that interesting anymore. Instead of wanting to look out the window he can't wait to get the gaming system or the movies up ...sigh , expectation bubble popped. The wonder of flying thousands of feet above the earth and what the country side or sites look like apparently cannot compete with mind craft, sonic the hedgehog or whatever pixelated trend is happening...I did not introduce him to video games btw ! the joys of the ex partner *meh*<br />
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We arrive in San Diego around 7pm to get to Legoland. Now I have said to friends many times that google does not know everything, and in this case I was unfortunately right. There is no shuttle bus that takes you to legoland from the airport every 30minutes(google lie 1)There are shuttles that you can organise that will get you there. We have a reasonable distance from the airport - like everything in California , it's an hour or two apart from the other attraction you want to see!<br />
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When we arrived our checkout was fun from the very minute . Everything in the hotel is lego inspired or actual lego. The outside of the hotel looks like lego bricks, the inside lobby has huge lego installations and you are immediately immersed in the land of master builders ( inside lego nerd talk lol) . I could write about legoland for so long I might lose the plot of this blog. I think I took 300 photos. I am , and always will be a lego nerd . The attention to detail for lego fans was worth every cent that we paid for the hotel . And it truly is a half a minute walk to the front gate. So if you get the extra hour early in you can really get on some rides quickly and repeatedly . The family restaurants were very American hotel fare and not of much interest to we Melbournians who are spoilt for great food options.However the Sky cafe food was great and the buffet in the morning was amazing choices and lego fun everywhere. If you get to try the "apple fries" inside the park they were fabulous btw, my son didn't like them -bonus all the more for me. Handy hint we did not know. You can trade with ride and food attendants all around the park. They have either mini figure name badges or trading points where you can swap eveything from hair , to legs to accessories. My son and I thoroughly enjoyed that and if there was to be a next time we would know to load up :) We scored a fabulous set on sale 1/3 of the cost of the set that never made it to Australia. So my advice pack light and be ready to shove that lego box into your luggage .<br />
The park is fabulous and fun but you really have to be a lego fanatic to get the most out of it- one thing I was able to mould him into LOL . The hotel is kind of expensive , I made choices based on "the trip of a lifetime" experience . Also my child is not a big eater so I saved a lot of money on that part of the trip. <a href="https://www.legoland.com/california/">https://www.legoland.com/california</a><br />
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What I did discover was - I seemed to be the only single parent. I did not see a single parent in the hotel , in the park ...anywhere in the 3 days . What I did see was the extended family unit , which was lovely but bought up a lot of emotions for me. That was not what I expected. Suddenly I went from thinking we were going to have the most fabulous of times , to having emotions triggered in me. Once again I could not convey this to any other adult. I had one drink on one night at the restaurant only to find myself a bit tipsy and up in the hotel room with my child asleep by my side at 9.00pm . Party ON !! It made me think about how privileged I must be as I am the only single parent here but how I was a little sad to be by myself.<br />
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So distance, yep once again there is no way but the shuttle way in L.A when it comes to getting around. I am not going to say what it cost in a taxi to get from legoland to Anheim but I will say it was the most money I have ever spent on a cab in my ENTIRE life. We probably could have had a limo and driver for the amount. There is no transport (without 3 hours of messing about) , there is no greyhound bus or anything that can get you to Disneyland from Legoland - FACT (google lie 2) . Most people hire cars- back home everything is on the different side of the road let alone driving in a state that has four times as many people as my own country. <br />
My out the window fascination is once again not shared by my son. I am having a great time looking and talking to the driver about everything around us. My son after about 20 minutes is bored. OMG EMOTIONS ABOUT TO EXPLODE - RAGE ALERT RAGE ALERT!!. I point out that we are in another country- the cars are different , the scenery- he still doesn't care. Expectations of fascination seem about to be blown to pieces. The suddenly out of nowhere a place that is mentioned in some gaming Youtube tutorial - he is excited !! Thank fuck. Finally he starts looking out the window and absorbing. Great expectations fulfilled. <br />
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Now again I am a fortunate soul , I have been to Disneyland before with my parents. I also went with my EX husband who nearly ruined it for life. So I definitely needed to go back lol. Now luckily with a bit of <a href="http://tripadvisor.com.au/">http://tripadvisor.com.au</a> we got an affordable hotel a 15 minute shuttle away from the happiest place on earth. Is it? yes it is . the first day we walked for 10 hours , mainly due to the monorail and the train that usually go around the park being closed. My son didn't complain , he was now truly taken with all the amazing sights and the rides, that are really so magical . I did think of the elderly and disabled who really would have had their time there restricted. And really Disney pretty poor planning to be having your diamond celebrations and getting around is a bit crap. Anyway I digress, Tomorrowland is filled with Starwars rides and activities- my boy got to fight Darth Vader and that was awesome to watch and an experience of a life time. How many kids can say they fought darhtvade!! And even tho it took up 2hours of our "magic hour" morning it was so worth it as that may not be there in a year(they do rotate the activities to keep it fresh ) . The detail and humour in these attractions is so great I laughed for the 3 days we were there. I must say I am a big kid at heart <br />
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Adventureland had amazing new rides and some of the old amazing rides where still there too. Did I expect to get triggered....no. Did I get triggered? YES! . OMG NOOO!!! Once again I seem to be the only single mother/parent in this place , which by the way is packed with around 20,000 even on a monday!! However I must say that after witnessing a few moments where couples were arguing and stressing out with each other and the kids, the triggers soon faded into some hologram on the Star Tours as my son and I laughed and laughed. Aaah , breathing happily again , in the happiest place on earth where nothing can upset me .We did three days and could have done more . There is really so much to see and yes there are queues . If you play your cards right and get a fast pass where possible and can skip the line it really made packing in more adventures possible. You can go to rollercoaster parks and carnivals , but if you can ever do it, truly the magic of how things happen had my son astounded even with the original rides - Enchanted Tiki Room , Alice In wonderland, Pirates of the Carribean and splash mountain are still fantastic rides and considering they were made in the 1960's it was a wow. <a href="https://disneyland.disney.go.com/">https://disneyland.disney.go.com</a><br />
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We left full of the magic of Disney and once again , yep you guessed it -shuttled our way up close to the airport. Two more days of shuttling around got us to universal studios, a hollywood tour and some random adventuring on our last day.<br />
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Now Universal studios these days is a trip into 4D adventure rides. I love rides , but I must say that most of these rides can leave a person almost having an out of body experience that in many ways is not that pleasant when you are hurtling along at great speeds with Megatron or Dementors in your face. The best thing really here is the tram tour that takes you around the lot and the "Animals in action" show that bought out many of the wonderful creatures we see in movies like Harry Potter. I personally found that unless you want your picture with Bumblebee from Transformers , expectations blown again - I thought my kid would want to , but no only the child like mother wanted too, there really is a lot of average food and over priced souvenirs to purchase. This can be the day wrecker....of course if you are 8 you want a want from Harry Potter , but the prices really were , for a piece of plastic shaped liked wood, ridiculous.<br />
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For what we saw on the other shuttle out to Manhattan beach and Venice Beach I would say spend time seeing those parts of L.A . It would have been wonderful to spend another week going to parts of California that are so beautiful and amazing , that I have seen with my parents. But as a sole parent there was only so much fairy dust I could muster before we had to come back to the land of Oz and see if the good witch can give us some magic from over the rainbow ...I shall keep clicking my little red shoes.<br />
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-48707357210912592352015-11-18T17:18:00.004-08:002015-11-18T22:00:51.172-08:00A weekend in the stars , together we can grow heal and shine- Violetnight does cosmic explorationA week ago I wrote about finding ways to help ourselves , healing , learning, growing and experiencing often out side of the box we normally experience.<br />
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I do alot of my creative work at home by myself and to a large degree hibernating . Having worked in the music industry for a long time , exposed to large amounts of people I find myself disappointed by humanity often .<br />
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SO for my birthday I bought myself a 4 day retreat focusing on horoscopes in an effort to come out of my cave and meet new people. Learn some things and maybe even heal some of my life's experiences.<br />
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The even was run by http://www.cosmicintelligenceagency.com<a href="http://www.cosmicintelligenceagency.com/">http://www.cosmicintelligenceagency.com</a> and featured guest Astrology expert <a href="http://newparadigmastrology.com/kaypacha/">http://newparadigmastrology.com/kaypacha/</a> whose weekly astology run downs I have been enjoying for over a year via YouTube. I find his videos refreshing , funny and insightful for those of us who feel the energies of the planets.<br />
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<b>DAY 1 </b><br />
When I arrived I felt a little vunerable as I could hear people talking quite expertly about astrology a- I have a more basic understanding of it so my brain went into " oh no i'm fucked " mode . Whilst unloading my bags and hats (of course) I connected instantly with lovely women . The afternoon was a coming together of everyone with food and high vibrations. This set the bar for the next four days and even in my sometimes shyness ( yes it's true i can be very shy ) I was so happy to have met 3 women straight awa who got my slightly offbeat humour and personality. Our guest kaypacha had such a warm and true loving spirit I was ready to learn and absorb knowing it was a safe space . We were greeted with our own little bag of information and personal star chart and run down of what the planets were doing at this time.<br />
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<b>DAY 2</b><br />
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Early rising for fab breakfast and then yoga - here we go . What was great about the event was the diverse range of ages , backgrounds , cultures and life experiences- the microcosm of the macrocosom. Kaypahca did yoga thru the star signs which was fun and a great workout. Currently as a larger version of myself I could not do many of the poses, but gave it my best shot. What was wonderful was seeing young 20 yr olds also unable to do the poses. When some one holds a lot of weight we can be so self critical - so seeing young very thin fit looking people not being able to hold the pose as well turned that voice off.<br />
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For me personally I was stunned when during one of the poses the grief of losing my mother came to the forefront. I found myself with tears running down my face- luckily for me we were in some strange postion so no one could see me lol.<br />
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At the end of the yoga we did a wonderful circle where we held eye contact , did not speak, I gave love to each person I was looking at while "Imagine" John Lennon played. I think we all felt very moved and connected and had no idea that on the other side of the world some thing horrible was happening. So this for me was such a great moment that we all shared.<br />
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For the rest of the day I allowed my self to stay/allow/acknowledge my grief . I knew that some thing was going to come up - so here it was on a large platter and at the same time many others were having experiences too. This makes for an interesting dynamic to the space as I could feel people's vunerabilites even on day 1 . So now here we all are out of our confort zone , interacting with strangers and facing what ever it is for each of us. The beauty of this event was we had a very funny and charismatic facilitator who was able to keep us laughing while we learnt about Chiron the wounded healer.<br />
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We experienced a wonderful talk by Marg about <b><i>daddiri . </i></b><br />
This is the aboriginal australian knowledge on communing with nature. The site we stayed on was once a mission - this is where people were taken from their tribal areas and placed . Many different beleif structures and loss for the connection to home surroundings ment so much loss and grief for the people. we were asked to walk off into nature and commune with it. I do this daily but what I found in this expereience was a pain and sorrow of the spirits who had lived their, often never getting to return to their spiritual/dreaming place. I also had a wonderful feeling before the soorow took over and that was recognising that one can feel broken but is not. I saw a wattle tree that looked broken but infact it had bent over and grwn in a unique way to find the sunlight.<br />
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How wonderful to be surrounded by people with so much insight and knowledge. My "chiron wound" was in pisces which we were going to get to last -"guh" in my mind , how am i going to walk around with this grief and socialize ! It is good in life to test yourself. I had this happen often working in the music field as something may happen personally but you just had to push it aside depending what you were working on that day - if you are around hundreds of people you just have to "perform" and that is that. It is often assumed that those of us in the "limelight" are cruising along happy happy joy joy , often we ca be the most wounded- you just have to listen to lyrics to see that .<br />
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<b>DAY 3</b><br />
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After breakfast it was straight into more indepth astrology . Humour is a great teacher and medicne, so Kaypacha once again was a fab fascilitator to hold the energy for us all who were chipping away at our wound or wounds . The final exercise for the wound came for me late in the day - once again the tears fell but I was held - literally by four people in a blanket and rocked back and forth. Grief for a dear one never subsides , but doing the inner work helps .<br />
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We were encouraged to meet new people every meal time and sit at different tables. Everyone on the weekend was wonderful and unique in thier own way . I spread the message of IAGBAM - to help all those who were feeling a lack of self worth - most of us do from time to time. And funnily enough, as is ofen the case the most naturally beautiful ones there were the ones who thought the least of themselves in some way or other. That is not to suggest that some are not beautiful - that is not what I mean , but those Virgo goddesses who got up and in this one exercise were adored I could see some of them feeling uncomfortable - it's ok just remember we all are <b><i>IAGBAM </i></b><br />
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We also got small sessions with chart readings done which was a great way to learn more about yourself and gain some wisdom into past life experiences and future direction. I sat with Linda who was for me perfect to get the insight I had come for. There are many different types of astrology I discovered my favourite is evolutionary ...yay I am constantly working on evolving :)<br />
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The evening was a chace to breath in the experiences and share time as one of the women form the Cosmc Intelligence Agency was having her birthday. Dancing is always great medicine too so it was good when those of us that were up for it had a little bit of a boogie and a laugh.<br />
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<b>DAY 4</b><br />
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Our last day together was a series of short workshops. This for me was so much fun and insightfulness. We did out star chart manadala using tarot cards - which I know little about so one of my new friends shared some info and knowledge on that. I personally work with animal totem cards over that past so this was another new experience. Then we did a colour test exercise and then finished off with finger print readings.<br />
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A final lunch and gathering ourselves together to leave. I often find at these events I do not want to leave as I find more connectedness with those there. I didn't get to meet everyone deeply but those I did was so wonderful . I met so many talented women who have much to share and are going to get their IAGBAM on and shoot for the stars. FOr those who have started looking at my facebook page l<a href="https://www.facebook.com/VioletNightIAGBAM/?ref=hl">https://www.facebook.com/VioletNightIAGBAM/?ref=hl</a> I am looking forward to sharing these peoples websites , talents and gifts .<br />
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I am unable to put eveyrthing int this blog , but I am able to say that if you get a chance to go to any workshops run by the <a href="http://www.cosmicintelligenceagency.com/">http://www.cosmicintelligenceagency.com</a> or <a href="http://newparadigmastrology.com/kaypacha/">http://newparadigmastrology.com/kaypacha/</a> I believe you will have a wonderful experience and meet amazing people and evolve more of you <b><i>IAGBAM . As I said to this gorgeous woman below I see everyone with as much natural beauty as her , a constant ray of sunshine , we all have it we just stop beliving it - so getout there and believe radiate your light and shine on for the world </i></b><br />
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-81482886885033569222015-11-10T03:32:00.001-08:002017-03-10T14:42:51.314-08:00Tools for keeping it together So how to keep "it " together ...<br />
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If you have read my other blogs you will undertand that my life is an emotional rocllercoaster from life's experiences. So you might be wondering how I keep it together ? It has been over a 15 years since I did the healing ceremony ( check out my BAM blog)<a href="http://iagbam.blogspot.com.au/2015/05/bam-beautiful-and-magnificent-this-cam.html">BAM - ancient wisdom for the new paradigm</a> and here I am reasonably balanced in an ever changing quite unbalanced world.<br />
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I touched very breifly in a blog about different tools for helping heal . Now I am going to share some links that I hope will help.<br />
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Firtsly I now have a facebook page<br />
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<a href="https://www.facebook.com/VioletNightIAGBAM/"> https://www.facebook.com/VioletNightIAGBAM/</a><br />
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I post usually at least once a day with either inspiration or information by women about women for women . It may be humour , a picture or an article. I also like support other women and businesses so feel free to like my page and post up your stuff :) I very rarely put up posts condemning men , for we all need to integrate our masculine and I like men anyway !<br />
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Music ; I cannot emphasize enough the importance of music in life. Relaxation music and meditations are readily available on Youtube and many are worth subscribing to the channel so you get regular updates one of my favourites is Source Vibrations here is a link to my fav music- I use this nearly every night to go to sleep , they have many and also on their web site offer a few free downloads.<br />
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<a href="https://youtu.be/6u0xIRID060">https://youtu.be/6u0xIRID060</a><br />
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Dancing and exercise , walking I know I know you've heard it all before but it really is important and so good to help destress. Many areas have yoga classes , dance classes - i personally recommend blarring your fav tracks and just busting a move when no one is around. If you do have kids they will love dancing with you , get creative and play with it . Check out the fitness marshall - even has plus size women exercising with him .<span style="color: #0000ee; text-decoration: underline;">https://youtu.be/f6wm2g682JM </span><br />
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<a href="https://youtu.be/bSsnxx_r2N0">https://youtu.be/bSsnxx_r2N0</a> I loved denise Austin in the 90's she got me so toned i could horse ride for three hours and haven pain !! TRUE STORY .<br />
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EFT tapping... never heard of it, that's ok I only found out about it this year too. This particular site I am super found of as they offer many free downloads and also if you have the money they do courses/webinars as well. I have passed on this to several friends. One was full of trauma and stress and she found this practise wonderful . Another has many health problems and she too found this really great . So here is the site and if you are on facebook they are too and they put up daily quotes of inspiration.<br />
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<a href="http://www.thetappingsolution.com/">http://www.thetappingsolution.com</a><br />
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For those who are interested or already on a spiritual path I could drop a heap of links here . Like all things it is best to go with what resonates foryou . There are many writers, channelers and channels you can check out . Here are some of my personal favourites<br />
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<a href="http://www.kryon.com/freeAudio_folder/2015_freeAudio.html">http://www.kryon.com/freeAudio_folder/2015_freeAudio.html</a><br />
yes you read it right these are free audio and they will download onto a smart phone fairly easily .<br />
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My other fave spiritual guide is Matt Khan . He is a really amazing guy , yo might want to go to the beginning of his youtube so you get what he is talking about if you are knew to awakening on the spiritual path <a href="https://youtu.be/YrdCgmiMzoQ">https://youtu.be/YrdCgmiMzoQ</a><br />
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Horoscopes . I discovered this hilarious and wise man thru an old music industry buddy many years ago , have even been on one of his retreats He does a weekly report of what the cosmos is doing and how it effects you/us check out "Kaypacha" <a href="https://www.youtube.com/user/tomlescher">https://www.youtube.com/user/tomlescher</a><br />
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Time in nature is a great healer . If you can , when ever you can spend in a little time with the earth and even 10 minutes and some deep breathing will be beneficial to your soul<br />
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This is my fav online magazine with loads of information - they even published one of my blogs- they have so much information on politics, technology and the arts.<br />
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Comedy and entertainment is also really important. I found recently this amazing young woman who is a brilliant singer , ventriloquist and comedian<br />
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<a href="https://www.youtube.com/user/MeganPiphus/videos">https://www.youtube.com/user/MeganPiphus/videos</a><br />
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<a href="https://youtu.be/wS2THqZemoc">https://youtu.be/wS2THqZemoc</a> this has words that may offend- but it shouldn't that is the whole point of this sketch , he is funny and the ascended masters have no care for words like these, they do not hold a vibration . Why do I say that - i have listened to many spiritual lectures and it was also bought up in Conversationv with God III<br />
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A couple of weeks ago this amazing woman Marianne Williamson gave this speech so I am including this to give you an idea of what I post on my facebook page and also so inspire your passion - she is amazing and this is one heck of a speech<br />
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<a href="https://youtu.be/HF-2mBxfsjg">https://youtu.be/HF-2mBxfsjg</a><br />
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To empower each other is the gift , to help each other is the gift to inspire each other is the gift.<br />
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If you want to give back you can buy my single <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/au/album/iag...">https://itunes.apple.com/au/album/iag...</a><br />
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or subscribe to my youtube channel <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rzFJIubIhds">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rzFJIubIhds</a><br />
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And finally repeat to yourself everyday " I love You" "I'm A Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent "<br />
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-61206465278329501122015-09-16T08:30:00.002-07:002015-10-21T21:42:44.284-07:00From treading on eggshells to walking with grace <b>I am writing this article for all the women on the planet.</b><br />
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<b>I am writing this aritcle for those who have escaped domestic violence , for those trying to escape.</b><br />
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<b>I am writing this to warn women so they never have to try to escape. </b><br />
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This needs to be shared so those who judge without understanding might now understand .<br />
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There is so much shame , blaming , guilt , asking herself why she stayed- why did she put up with it , how did she fall in love with that ? Even if the love didn't stay long - why did she think so little of herself to think it was ok to be treated like that? You can ask all those question she asked herself. The reponse buzz phrase these days - "it's complicated" - yeah it is , deeply complicated.<br />
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Some where on her journey in life somebody made her feel second rate. Was it another family member, society and ex boyfriend/girlfriend? The cliche - the damage is done now. Yes it is and she will live with the memories for the rest of her life....<br />
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<b><i>JJ</i></b><br />
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Have you had to hide behind a tree in the middle of the night?<br />
While your baby sleeps inside not knowing you're trying to save your lives.<br />
Have you had to live each day by day wondering how you'll get away?<br />
Looking at your children in the eye thinking how can we survive?<br />
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Wondering how you gonna make it with no money with no home<br />
But deep down you no for all's sake you gotta go gotta go<br />
The world stops around you all you can hear is your heart<br />
Thumping madly , brain is churning in the dark, it's so dark<br />
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Please don't touch me , pretend you love me<br />
just leave me alone.<br />
Once again you drug me<br />
When I wake up you've had your turn.<br />
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She got away , everyday she survives. Everyday she is amazing raising her children , still carrying those memories. She got away, it took planning but even with 5 children she did it. If you are reading this and thinking you cannot get away YOU CAN . You have to plan , you have to think a little ahead.<br />
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In the middle of the night she holds her baby tight ,<br />
In the middle of the night she prays she'll see out the night.<br />
Yelling , cursing pacing back and forth like a madman.<br />
Threatening waving the didgeridoo over them.<br />
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She holds her breath praying , praying it will be over soon,<br />
Praying she and baby will see another moon.<br />
What happens if she moves, one false move it could be over.<br />
What happens if she moves , one false move baby could be without her.<br />
Still feeding from her breast , she feels the chills of regret.<br />
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With all her love she feels the guilt of bringing baby here.<br />
Suffering this anger , loathing and despair.<br />
Watching everytime with anguish and crying<br />
As mother takes a beating one more time one more time.<br />
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She got away , she survives everyday. Trying to push the memories away , knowing she will never let anyone treat her that way . EVER AGAIN.<br />
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It all started out like a good fun fling thing. Flirting , great conversations, fabulous sex, lots of laughs and generally good feeling times. Women love to feel sexy, loved , a little lusty and made to laugh right? Especially if we have low self esteem - and unfortunately most women do. It is our instinct to want to nuture and make some one feel good- even if this means putting ourselves second. We so often mistake these feelings for falling in love.<br />
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The fling thing turns a little more serious , words like "i love you" start getting thrown around. Months have passed by and it all still seems great, even if signs are there , our desire to be loved and the use of sex as a means of control are starting to blot out the little warning signs that this person might not really be the right one.<br />
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Then it happens, that time that you never think it could happen to you. Never in your wildest dreams did you think you would or could let it happen to you. BANG in the side of the head , out of left field with no warning. Just like in the cartoons you see stars/ white flash and your head is spinning. WTF ? did that just really happen? Raining down on top of that is a storm of verbal abuse, you want to duck run hide but there is no escape. The next day tears and denial "i was drunk" "I don't remember" "i've never hit a person before" DO NOT BELIEVE OR ACCEPT THESE LIES.<br />
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Who's that screaming at my windows, screaming at my door?<br />
I thought I had a sanctuary , no not anymore<br />
I let you in I trusted you for the last time,<br />
You'd be in jail now if hating me was a crime.<br />
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You lost control you couldn't handle what you said you did<br />
You changed my life forever and I'm left raising you kids<br />
Alone , ashamed and still you blame , like it's all up to me<br />
But never have you stopped and still you take away my sanctuary<br />
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I'm learning everyday<br />
And now I see through you<br />
I'm learning everyday<br />
I realize we do not need you<br />
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A better life<br />
The best life<br />
Is what I want for us<br />
You wont be there, for the last time you broke our trust.<br />
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This week in my counrty I have witnessed in the media women die at the hands of their partner or ex partner. This year this seems to have sky rocketted, the ones we actually know about.<br />
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For many who escape , it is a never ending journey. Fortnighty they regain their strength and drop the children off for teh court access visit, often feeling the danger and all the emotions of having to see that person.<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">My strongest advice , if you can, never disclose your new address , meet somewhere neutral you will sleep better knowing they do not know where you are. </span></b></div>
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This is not exculsive to hetrosexual relationships. I am passionate about women finding self love, </div>
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any form of abuse - is just that ABUSE. Survivors need love and support , not judgement and intolerance. Survivors are AMAZING people , do not turn away and leave them.<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Survivors are goddess too, they have forgotton . </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">To all the survivors , to all the people in an abusive relationship I hope you find your IAGBAM soon I hope you get out soon , love yourself and be loved in a way that honours you spirit . To all the young girls out there , read the articles/information below and learn the signs of a shadow man/woman so that you may never enter into a relationship like the ones above. </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">This is the century that this has to stop - enough is enough</span></b><br />
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I have included some great article's about relationships by kelly marceau;<br />
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http://kellymarceau.com/unconscious-shadow-men-who-they-are-and-what-you-need-to-know-about-these-men/</div>
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http://kellymarceau.com/8-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-you-commit-to-a-relationship/</div>
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-89454104789661362062015-07-09T20:48:00.000-07:002017-04-01T21:54:54.589-07:00Love your body http://madamenoire.com/481322/little-girls-drop-f-bombs-in-the-name-of-feminism/OK Ladies it's time for us to knock off the self critizism , self loathing and comparing ourselves .<br />
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Of course it can be really hard if we have had this critizism come from those who we thought we trust and love the most. For me I had from about the age of 4 years old a father that called me "two tonne tessy". To this day I never have known why he did it, but the pain it cuased me was immense. It made me over the years settle for less than I was worth- as it infact gave me no self worth at all. When I look back I realised why I settled for men who didn't treat me with the utmost respect. Luckily for me I had a mother who always supported me and loved me. My father loved me deeply too I am not saying he didn't just I had forgotten about it and what impact it had on my spirit until I was doing a workshop for releasing old traumas.<br />
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The critisizm did not stop with just my father. When I got to my first day of school it started again, "fatty fat fat" was the next attack. This was continued abuse at me for my first 3 years of school. I never retaliated, I am generally not that type of person. It did make me very unsure of people , and as I got older a very foul mouth. I found it better to call some one a "cunt" than attack there personal image.<br />
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Is it any wonder we compare , and belittle ourselves. THAT ALL CHANGES NOW !!<br />
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<b><i><u>Firstly - </u></i></b>if you compare yourself to let's say Beyonce - this woman works out constantly , has maids to do her house work, a nanny and can therefore dedicate herself to looking amazing full-time...oh and let's not forget a chef , dietician and personal trainer...I am already exhausted just writing about her lol.<br />
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This is only sustainable for the very wealthy. SO STOP COMPARING - it is the thief of joy - some famous yogi , guru type said that not me but i love it.<br />
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If you have a partner who is complaining about your weight - get rid of him...if it is your husband then tell him to get you all the things beyonce has - that should shut him up. If you have children - cut yourself a break - you are being a provider and we know we put ourselves last on that one.<br />
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<b><i><u>Thirdly</u></i></b>- The media would have you believe that you MUST have a perfect body. Have you seen rebel Wilson or Tess Holiday? If not go google. These women look stunning and they are large, according to some morbidly obese - what the fuck does that mean anyway ?! SO was my mother and lived till 77!! One of the world's most adored sexiest women was Marilyn Munroe - a size 14/16 , look how healthy her face always looked too.<br />
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If we tell ourselves in a negative way that we are this or that our cells here us and take it on board. That's the scientific fact. Check out the "water bottle" experiment where they put HATE on one bottle and LOVE on the other- the effect was the hate one turned to brackish water the love one went crystaline! If you are in anyway a believer in god/ higher power etc then you are saying you are not part of the beauty of that creation. SO either way you are being mean to yourself.<br />
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If the fashion industry got off it's anorexic arse it would realise there is a fortune to be made in dressing the larger sizes- hey I want to wear Gaultier but he designs clothes for women with the body shape of a 10 year old boy....which accounts for about 8% of women who are actually that body type. If you look at all the famous people that are shoved in your face ( I choose not to buy women magazines) you will find out they all work out like fucking egyptian slaves. They probaly never eat chocolate( then it's not worth living) and never eat cake either.<br />
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When I as a size 12 I didn't actually realize I was most of the time. When I look back now - holy cow if i had kept that weight I would loook about 80 years old in the face right now.<br />
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I currently am the largest I have EVER been in my life...rockin around a size 22 . I have never felt more confident about who <b> I AM. Why??.....</b><br />
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It took nearly 15 years for me to actually get the ceremony I did and embrace my " BAM" check out that blog <a href="http://iagbam.blogspot.com.au/2015/05/bam-beautiful-and-magnificent-this-cam.html">http://iagbam.blogspot.com.au/2015/05/bam-beautiful-and-magnificent-this-cam.html</a> - yes I am beautiful and magnificent and at this size I have rejected more men knocking on my door than ever...from young men to older. The thing is as the great Shirley Bassey once sang " i don't pop my cork for every man I see"...Why ?? because I am worth more- I have so much self respect and love for myself that no drunken , very handsome guy (recently OMG he was to drool over)is going to think I am a push over...Because I am not. And if you have read my single mother article you will know I don't get alot of chances to "get some" but for me now any sex has to be safe , has to be on my terms and because they are making me feel good not thinking I am an easy shag, oh and let's not forget AMAZING.<br />
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<u style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Forthly- (if there is such a word) </u>When you are rocking in your spirit- got your BAM on men can feel it, so they are drawn to you...on the opposite side of it many women will hate you...we are so stupid sometimes getting caught up in this critisizing of each other.<br />
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What I have learned- you will hear it said- and it is SO TRUE ...only when you really love yourself will you get the love you are looking for - <b><i>YOU ARE YOUR SOUL MATE !</i></b>!!! <b><i>SURPRISE </i></b>!!! So when you realize you are an amazing creation you will stop looking for someone who is going to make yo believe that- wow I am tellin ya if some one had explained that to me at 18 I would have led a different life.<br />
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I am sharing what I know so you can find the some one who does treat you with love and respect and yes gives you butterflies, never PMD PMR or TMLS !!! - check out my song or the lyrics breakdown for those acronyms.<br />
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So stop the self sabotage, realize WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL AND MAGNIFICENT . There are loads of different women ,shape , color , size - be who you are - get away from those stupid magazines- have you noticed they tell you how to diet and then have the 12 page chocolate desert lift out??!!!<br />
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LOVE YOURSELF YOU ARE WORTH IT , YOU ARE AMAZING we all have days when we don't feel it but I am here to tell you , you can achieve it and be it<br />
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IAGBAM - repeat three times and say I LOVE YOU to yourself<br />
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Check out the clip on youtube, the link is there to buy it on iTunes also<br />
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https://youtu.be/rzFJIubIhds<br />
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and this new ad is really what I am talking about<br />
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http://madamenoire.com/481322/little-girls-drop-f-bombs-in-the-name-of-feminism/<br />
<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-58058032308663790932015-06-22T05:59:00.002-07:002015-11-10T02:47:34.287-08:00Single mum's - what no one tells youFor centuries it's been going on ... the "norm" has been if you marry, them then "till death do us part". Now depending on what era we are talking about , that was very literal. You could have your head chopped off during the medieval/dark ages, you could die in childbirth , up until 20th century was quite common place , or you could be beaten to death. The later still is happening now to women.<br />
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It is quite frightening to see the statics , particularly in Australia (where I live) of women dying at the hands of a husband/partner/spouse. Why is this still happening? Why are women still considered second rate , when in nearly all ancient cultures I have studied (and I have looked into alot ) the women were revered as the life givers , the law makers and in many cultures the priestesses, the leaders of their clans.<br />
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Here in Australia the Aboriginal women held the lore and later decided that they were being selfish and shared it with the men( not the best move ladies although completely compassionate ). The clan groups were matriarchal and there is only two tribes I have heard of that were not...even still with the decimation of culutre here , so much being lost that may not be correct.<br />
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But I am digressing. Today in most of western society a woman can get divorced without her thinking she is going to hell. However she may infact live a type of hell she wasn't expecting. If she has children - then she has to juggle day to day living and the children . Which means working , often some hideous job - like cleaning , factory work or god forbid prostitution(it happens). <b>AND</b> still deal with the residual emotions of the separation. In many cases she may have fled violence, verbal abuse or financial abuse in order to save her children. Or she may have had a cheating scumbag partner. ALL of the fore mentioned - she comes off second best.<br />
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Whilst she feels she is scuffling around in the dirt , the added insult to injury is that many see her as blight on society maybe even a slut (usually the older generation) and have no idea how she feels at the end of the day.<br />
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How do I know this? I am a single mother . It was never something I saw in my child hood...most of us are programmed into believing everything is deliciously "disney" and we will find the prince charming. There was never in my generation anything but that conditioning. I myself had said I would never marry , I also said I would never have children. Both these announcements shocked my mother ( hey me too mum) and I learnt never say never.<br />
My ex husband was actually a great friend for along time , until he decided bourbon and computers games were more exciting than me. So I actually dumped his arse. The father of my child...don't even start me that's probably a blog unto itself.<br />
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Staying on point...Not long after my mother died I was without a house to call my own, a child of two years of age and feeling like I wanted to die. I cannot stress enough to young women - this is not a lifestyle choice!! I have many friends who are single mothers and we all can tell you how lonely it is. At night , when you have got you child/or children to bed , you are drained and without any comfort. There is no one to give you a hug, no one to help calm the child, help make a rule stick and most importantly no one to make you feel loved. <b>At the end of a rough day you're on your own.</b><br />
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All my friends are amazing, as am I . We do not have a bottle firmly stuck to our lips(many even in relationships do) we are not drug addicts, legal or illegal and our children are loved, clothed , schooled and have a roof over their heads. Usually with no help from the "sperminator" .<br />
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This is how I found out about dating sites and the creeps that lurk therein. Out of sheer loneliness I joined a couple of them....Now after what i have stated before you might realise my actual ME time is precious and limited. So after all the emotional shit the last thing I need is a bunch of <b>DDI's </b>wanting to use my time for free sexting or trying to manipulate some free pics of me naked. <br />
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I am not the average woman either , so a few of the dating sites were too conservative, there are no dating sites for dj's who like punk, goth , metal or electro (EDM). I even looked into the sugar daddy site thinking "I don't have time for a real relationship , but a high paid dinner and a quick shag could be fun" ... I haven't come across one guy who even came close to being honest let alone interesting , and 9 times out of 10..it was all about texting dirty messages and getting their rocks off, yes you might get your rocks off too , but I can do that for myself any day of the week - I don't need to spent my wifi/phone credit on that. Gosh , let's just think of George Clooney (or whoever floats your boat) for that.<br />
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Any woman who tells you being a single mum is awesome , is a goddam liar. No one chooses this life. Actually the only one who is probably having an alright time of it is JLO - hey she has a nanny, staff, possibly a few high end lovers , masseurs, make overs spa treatments and travels the world and is loved and adored by millions.<br />
For the rest of us , it is lonely, emotionally draining ,thankless and tiring.In my 5 years as a single mum I have had 4 men tell me what a great job I am doing - I nearly fell over and burst into tears. One of them was the friend who recorded the vocals for this track...proof there are kind hearted men out there let's not give up - nearly all seem to be taken tho.<br />
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I wouldn't wish it on anyone, at the end of the day my friends and I all wish we had some one to snuggle up to , to make us feel loved , to take the pressure off -and hey a bit of financial support would be fucking great too. I am not whinging I adore my son I am sharing this so young girls really think through what their life might look like (nobody can predict the future) and to make smart choices because once the fun between the sheets is over you might be looking at a different life to what you expected. Use contraception , this also prevents any nasty little diseases that could down the track make your own personal life very traumatic , painful and permanent health problems.<br />
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My mantra has been IAGBAM for many years and another way to put it is I am a queen and deserve to be treated like one. This is why my song is tough, maybe considered aggressive - but hey I been thru some shit and I had to get it out, in between loads of washing, school lunches, playing lego , cleaning the house and djing where I can ! <b>Damn straight IAGBAM and so are you , never forget it.</b><br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;"> the link is here for itunes if you want to buy it and support me supporting my son you can buy it thru many other cyber shops too </span></b><br />
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-16045873111368116482015-05-21T16:30:00.001-07:002015-05-21T16:30:34.382-07:00hollywood women give an empowerment speechGo to this link and see how these women are telling how to embrace your IAGBAM<br />
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Do not think in color or size , and keep remembering you are beautiful and magnificent XXXVioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-43269324294223346902015-05-17T04:21:00.002-07:002015-05-17T04:22:42.116-07:00translation of the lyrics as the song is performedThis is how the song translates<br />
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Ladies listen up<br />
For centuries it's been going on<br />
Lots of men got it all wrong<br />
It's 2015 time to get devine and shine<br />
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I got a Recommended Prior Learning and a PhD<br />
In Dick Driven Individuals and Misogynst Fucking Pigs<br />
Put Me Down , Push Me Round<br />
In you Wife Beater Singlet<br />
Talk to Me Like Shit<br />
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U want me to Pick Up Your Socks<br />
Cook U dinner , Suck Your Cock<br />
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aahh Give Me Strength<br />
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Shave it<br />
Pluck it<br />
Tuck it<br />
Laser It Off<br />
so U can Fuck My Arse<br />
U Got Issues<br />
Anal Fucking Disorder<br />
You Dirty Old Man<br />
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Give Me Strength<br />
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what's the heck wrong with you?<br />
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You think I'm gonna<br />
Shave Pluck Tuck and Lazer It Off so U can<br />
Fuck My Arse<br />
You got Anal Fucking Disorder<br />
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Give Me Strength<br />
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To fat to thin ?<br />
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Give Me Strength<br />
You don't know where you're even ment to stick it in<br />
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Give Me Strength<br />
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Pick Up Your Socks , Cook U Dinner<br />
Suck Your Cock<br />
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Give Me Strength<br />
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I Am a Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent<br />
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Ladies time to turn it around<br />
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Times To get Bliss Serenity Joy Peace<br />
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right away and Get Real Love<br />
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Coz I deserve love like<br />
Kim and Kayne<br />
like Zahoor and Kamaliya<br />
Portia and Ellen<br />
real love true love<br />
coz IAGBAM<br />
you heard me IAGBAM<br />
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Right Now<br />
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And by the way,<br />
I got a latex friend in my draw<br />
I don't need you anymore<br />
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You heard me<br />
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So ladies don't compare yourselves<br />
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I am that I am<br />
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You don't have to Shave Pluck Tuck or Lazer It Off<br />
to get Get Real Love and Bliss Serenity Peace Joy<br />
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Coz I am A Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent<br />
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No matter my size, the color of my eyes<br />
what i wear what i put in my hair<br />
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Now repeat and don't forget this<br />
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Are you ready?<br />
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IAG I Am a Goddess<br />
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BAM Beautiful And Magnificent<br />
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And so ARE YOU<br />
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Never forget it<br />
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RIGHT NOW<br />
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<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-42575764118554636812015-05-07T07:41:00.001-07:002016-07-18T23:46:35.352-07:00The Love , The Power , The Unity of Women<b><i><span style="font-size: large;">The Love , The Power , The Unity of Women</span></i></b><br />
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Throughout the gestation period of this track I have been lovingly supported by women, and a couple of men ...but the sisters are the ones who held me up , held my heart and over many coffees, chocolates and the occasional liquor and lots of laughs IAGBAM has been birthed.</div>
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The women in the film clip are not just my friends. They are all multi talented , shinning hearts , professional , creative and nearly all mothers , like myself. </div>
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Some of them had to be almost dragged into being on film and I admire their guts for not just turning up but shinning even tho inside they were shaking. I used masks throughtout the clip for several reasons. We all put subliminal masks on when we go out into the world not believing in our <b><i>BAM. </i></b></div>
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All women are beautiful but often become objects to others because of their beauty. And best of all it got the shyest of the group to loosen up and by the end of it they didn't need the masks anymore.</div>
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When I was editing the film clip I found myself in tears, laughing and being amazed at how , in the moment they each added a part of their true inner magnificence to the clip. The strength of these women and the different things they have all been through is for me, was why I chose them.</div>
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Represented not only in their physical diversity these women cover all aspects of being a woman ; </div>
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single mother, divorced, happily married, single independant woman , lesbian and the youngest in our group -daughter and yet to be dating , and the youngest is for me who I am singing out to .<br />
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The diversity of these women is amazing; Designer <a href="http://Rachel Amber Design.">Rachel Amber Design.</a> , Teacher, Healer <a href="http://redspasanctuary.com.au/">http://redspasanctuary.com.au</a> , Midwife, Website designer , Massuer , Mosiac artist , Bird watcher , Vegetable Grower/Distributer , Painter , Sculpture , Dj and Horticulturalist !</div>
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This song is telling young women they are <b><i>BAM t</i></b>hat they don't have to take a guy who is going to <b>PMD </b>and especially <b>PMR</b> . To give them a modern langauge they can identify with and not get involved with a <b>DDI and especially a MFP . </b></div>
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The two women who filmed the clip that you never see, are women I hold dear in my heart , completely different to each other , but both amazing shinning stars in their own right. Huge gratitude goes out to them. Liz and Alanna I love you .</div>
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Some of the scenes were filmed at the fabulous shop in <a href="http://portal108.com.au/">http://portal108.com.au</a> Main Road Hepburn .</div>
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Owned and run by a wonderful female couple , much gratitude to them also, for staying back after closing hours to let us dance around in the front garden . As a lover of disco how could I ever go past a shop that has a giant mirror ball in the front ! The stock inside is funky , fabulous and unique too and supports many local artisans. Great clothes, kids toys , jewellery , handbags , plants and more Blessings ladies.</div>
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The bar scene and fabulous chaise lounge scenes were filmed at the glamourous Frangos and Frangos establishment on Vincent Street in Daylesford. Thankyou to Bernard and staff for your fabulous cocktails and support of IAGBAM.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>FMA - Fuck My Arse</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>AFD - Anal Fucking Disorder.</b></span><br />
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Seriously at my age I thought I had seen it all , heard it all or been told it all. When I split from the father of my child , out of complete boredom I joined two different dating sites. Profile , picture little blurb, women get to join free - many of you know the drill harmless right? <b><span style="font-size: large;">NO!</span></b><br />
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The first communication seemed normal, "Hi I am Barry , like your pic, what do you do " blah blah . Then the second message from Barry- " I can't wait to fuck your arsehole" <span style="font-size: large; font-weight: bold;">WTF !!!!</span> I almost fell off my chair.<br />
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Now I am no prude.I used to work in the niteclub industry and ran a B&D (Bondage and Discipline) club... I never did any of it but my theory was to each their own, no judgement just don't ask me to go up for a whipping , thanks for coming and let's get paid. But anal sex is another thing all together.<br />
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Some one I know who used to go to these clubs recently posted on facebook and article called "Anal is the new pussy". THAT"S IT I cracked it ( in australia that means i got really upset), I feel as my duty of protector of women , raising the vibration etc etc to inform young women this is not ok . Getting your anus bleached of hair lasered off is twisted and completely stupid. Mate if you have that much spare cash give it a homeless person or a charity that helps the poor FFS.<br />
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Here is what Cameron Diaz had to say about lasering pubic hair ;<br />
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I went to my girlfriends and asked them and here is the responses;<br />
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"Are you kidding? tell them to go put their dick in a tree "!!<br />
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"Might as well go sleep with a man"<br />
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"That's sodomy"<br />
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"You have to be in a long term relationship, trust and connected before they can even think about it"<br />
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I even asked one of my longest standing male BFF's and he said he broke up with a girl because she wanted to do it , it has never been even a curiousity for him.<br />
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When I started making this track , I was trying to think up acronym's all the time. Then it became apparent through posts on facebook and reading articles that this is what young women are being told is the new thing to do. I feel it is my duty to pass on information to women - especially young ones ,<br />
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If you have only dated a man for a small amount of time this should not even be coming up..they do have AFD (Anal Fucking Disorder)! I cannot stress enough to young women that this over generations has never been "NORMAL" . there are some cultures that would do it for "contraceptive reasons", excuse me while I go vomit- we all know that does not hold up in this day and age. This practise can be physically damaging and psychologically too . I do know of a young girl who was raped in this way and it has had a huge effect. If he is not interested in the wonders of your glorious vagina first and foremost then tell him to go find that tree !! What you explore together after years of deep connection and intimacy is then your own adventure or pleasure<br />
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<b><i><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></i></b>I Am Beautiful I Am Magnificent<br />
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This part of the acronym came from a Maori ceremony I participated in in 1999.<br />
It was run by Aunty Kitty a Maori elder out in a a bush town in Victoria. The ceremony began with some prayers to the earth , spirit and the four directions then we walked over to where there was a stone spiral labyrinth set in a clearing of trees where we were asked to compete the labyrinth in total silence , not look at each other or talk to each other , when we passed each other were to look at the ground . One by one were guided to walk through it and the whole time in our head we had to say " I am beautiful and magnificent" for that is how the creator, our ancestrors that have crossed over , angels and ascended masters see us- ALWAYS <div>. At the end we were to go up to a tree and ask it for forgiveness for something. I asked the trees to forgive us humans for our lack of regard for deforestation. At the end we came back together as a group , Aunt said to me you look like you hugged the whole forest , I beamed "that was what I wanted to do " many women were crying and feeling blessed by it, Aunty told us that it may take days, weeks or even years to feel the power of the ceremony. Every now and then over the years I would remember it , however it wasnt until I was at my lowest trying to work out how to end my violent relationship that I remembered , "oh wait a minute I am beautiful and magnificent " . Anyone , which is nearly all humanity that has been verbally abused, bullied or hit understands how this effects our self esteem. As soon as I remembered my true magnificence it was like he could sense it and I knew it was time to start planning the end. <div>After around a year of being away from that relationship I started thinking about how I could share this powerful ceremony , in a modern world as who drives around with a truck full of rocks and has a spare 1/4 acre to create this? <br /><div><div>So I came up with the new millennium acronym of <i style="font-weight: bold;"> IAGBAM </i>as a way for people to empower them self NOW completely in this time and space no matter where you are . For many of us we cannot get to do this ceremony , so I am passing on the knowledge and wishing all people say this to themselves DAILY in a new modern way IAGBAM- I Am Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent . Ok I added a word and let me explain incase you never read any other of my blogs that the word "goddess' is merely the femine aspect of god - for we are always both and the imbalance is what has caused so much mental health issues in our society.</div><div><br /></div><div>The men were also to do this ceremony and if we had time we were to go to the labyrinth set up for them and balance ourselves, so it is about the balance of both fellas.<br />
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On my journey in life I have attended some different gatherings sharing indigenous wisdom and experienced different empowering and healing practitioners. Body work , kinesiology , NPL , EFT and meditation.<br />
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Many people are sceptical however if you find a the right person you can truely experience great personal empowerment and if you want it you can get your IAGBAM on and get the self love happening, it is essential to your happiness and wellbeing. Take care out there, be kind to yourself and one another .<br />
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check out the clip on youtube the link is there for itunes, amazon music and many other platforms if you want to buy it and dance sing and hum our way into our divine magnificence<br />
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<br /></div></div></div></div>VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-1330860777639609092015-05-04T20:46:00.001-07:002016-12-09T05:10:14.581-08:00IAGBAM - what's it all about ?<span style="font-size: large;"><b><i>IAGBAM</i></b> - what's it all about?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">My mother was my best friend, 6 months before she died we had , as we often did, one of own little jokes....</span><br />
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Ever since I was around 13 I heard her constantly saying , with reference to my father <b>Give Me Strength </b>- which was her shortened version of <b>God Give Me Strength Not To Kill Him</b>. Now my mother deeply loved my father but he did things that constantly infuriated her. Her way of dealing with it was to say "GIVE ME STRENGTH" either loudly or under her breath depending on the situation. <b>SO </b>one day I rang her and I said "you know that Usher with his OMG track?You should say <b>GMS </b>every time Dad does something annoying" . well she burst out laughing , she thought that was great . I too had a partner it was in my second relationship , which was going dismally wrong and I had now had my only child who was 2 years old.<br />
We spoke at least once a week, sometimes twice and so the next phone call I made to her I rang up and asked how she was , her reply-<b> "GMS" </b>I replied "me too" and we both cracked up laughing.<br />
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Six months later she was gone and to this day I miss her dearly . So this song is an ode to her and what created for me a need to change the way women live their lives. Acronyms for the new millenium , as it would seem, no one can say a proper sentence anymore- #I'm fucking serious .<br />
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My mother grew up in a time where men "wore the pants" yet it was women who truely ran the household and my father would agree with this to this day. Sure he made the money but she got us to school, fed , clothed, educated enforced good manners, hosted and ran the dinner parties, got us to basketball games, friends houses, picked up from the nightclub at 2am etc<br />
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However the world was completely patriachal and demeaning of women , and it is improving but there are MANY things still out of balance- I am hoping with this song to turn this around.<br />
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We ladies know this now our modern world it seems everyone wants to use acronym's. So I decided girls and women needed a new set exclusively to help them communicate their concerns frustrations or dissatifaction with the male species. For young single girls I wanted them to be able to communicate quickly and easily when they are out looking for a potential boyfriend/partner. This is not exclusive to hetrosexual females , I have many lesbian friends and I want all women to be empowered and deeply loved when entering a relationship.<br />
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For women in a relationship, there are times when you beloved does those little things that make you want to lose your shit in a heartbeat so now you can say in your mind or outloud <b>"GMS" have a little laugh or grit your teeth. </b>Be thankful you have a partner , we all come here to experience love and companionship , if you have that there can still be those little<b> GMS </b>times. My mother will laugh with you, infact I am sure all women will.<br />
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From the lips of VioletNight on the mic<br />
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here is the link for itunes if you want to buy it<br />
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<a href="https://itunes.apple.com/au/album/iag...">https://itunes.apple.com/au/album/iag...</a><br />
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check out the clip on youtube<br />
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https://youtu.be/rzFJIubIhds<br />
<br />VioletNighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17857364942316082359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6189316374134698148.post-84850864681454034292015-05-04T20:46:00.000-07:002016-07-19T00:05:29.138-07:00IAGBAM - what's it all about ?<span style="font-size: medium;">My mother was my best friend, 6 months before she died we had , as we often did, one of own little jokes....</span><br />
Ever since I was around 13 I heard her constantly saying , with reference to my father <b>Give Me Strength </b>- which was her shortened version of <b>God Give Me Strength Not To Kill Him</b>. Now my mother deeply loved my father but he did things that constantly infuriated her. Her way of dealing with it was to say "GIVE ME STRENGTH" either loudly or under her breath depending on the situation. <b>SO </b>one day I rang her and I said "you know that Usher with his OMG track?You should say <b>GMS </b>every time Dad does something annoying" . well she burst out laughing , she thought that was great . I too had a partner it was in my second relationship , which was going dismally wrong and I had now had my only child who was 2 years old.<br />
We spoke at least once a week, sometimes twice and so the next phone call I made to her I rang up and asked how she was , her reply-<b> "GMS" </b>I replied "me too" and we both cracked up laughing.<br />
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Six months later she was gone and I miss her dearly . So this song is an ode to her and what created for me a need to change the way women live their lives. Acronyms for the new millenium , as it would seem, no one can say a proper sentence anymore- #I'm fucking serious .<br />
<br />
My mother grew up in a time where men "wore the pants" yet it was women who truely ran the household and my father would agree with this to this day. Sure he made the money but she got us to school, fed , clothed, educated enforced good manners, hosted and ran the dinner parties, got us to basketball games, friends houses, picked up from the nightclub at 2am etc<br />
<br />
However the world was completely patriachal and demeaning of women , and it is improving but there are MANY things still out of balance- I am hoping with this song to turn this around.<br />
<br />
We ladies know this now our modern world it seems everyone wants to use acronym's. So I decided girls and women needed a new set exclusively to help them communicate their concerns frustrations or dissatifaction with the male species. For young single girls I wanted them to be able to communicate quickly and easily when they are out looking for a potential boyfriend/partner. This is not exclusive to hetrosexual females , I have many lesbian friends and I want all women to be empowered and deeply loved when entering a relationship.<br />
<br />
For women in a relationship, there are times when you beloved does those little things that make you want to lose your shit in a heartbeat so now you can say in your mind or outloud <b>"GMS" have a little laugh or grit your teeth. </b>Be thankful you have a partner , we all come here to experience love and companionship , if you have that there can still be those little<b> GMS </b>times. My mother will laugh with you, infact I am sure all women will.<br />
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From the lips of Violet Night on the mic<br />
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https://youtu.be/rzFJIubIhds<br />
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<b><i><span style="font-size: large;">BREAKING DOWN THE LYRICS ;</span></i></b><br />
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<b><i>R.P.L -Recommended Prior Learning</i></b><br />
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<b><i>PhD- Doctor of Philopshy</i></b><br />
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<b><i>DDI- Dick Driven Individual</i></b><br />
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<i><b>MFP-</b></i><b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"> <i>Misogynist Fucking Pig</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>PMD- Put Me Down</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>PMR -Push Me Round</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>WBS- Wife Beater Singlet</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>TMLS- Talk 2 Me Like Shit</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>GMS- Give Me Strenght</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>PUYS- Pick Up Your Socks</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>SUD - Suck UR Dick </i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>SPT- Shave Pluck Tuck</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>LIO- Laser It Off</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>FMA- Fuck My Arse</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>AFD- Anal Fucking Disorder</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>UGI- U Got Issues</i></b><br />
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 19px;"><b><i>DOM- Dirty Old Man</i></b></span></span><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>IAG- I Am a Goddess</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>BAM- Beautiful And Magnificent</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>GRL- Get Real Love</i></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>BSPJ- Bliss Serenity Peace </i></b><b style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 19px;"><i>Joy </i></b><br />
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